Hello! I am Lucy AitkenRead. Six years ago we moved our family from South London, UK to a yurt in the middle of nowhere, NZ. We share our off grid farm with another family where we all live without school.
I am passionate about supporting people to live compassionately – on earth, with the folks around them AND themselves. ‘Coz so often one of those things can be missing, amiright?
I’ve spent the last 9 years writing about sustainable living and attachment parenting (and holy guac, ALOT of other shizzle) on this blog. These I can be found over on my Youtube Channel Life Without School or in the courses I run that help people trust themselves with their hopes and dreams! Sometimes that’s like living a life without school (my Disco course) or nurturing a spirituality without religion.
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Contact Lucy Aitken Read on lulasticblog@gmail.com
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Love your blog!
Thank you 😀 (biggest smile evs)
Hi lucy. I’m a new follower and really interested in how u set up your new life in NZ. We are considering a similar move in the next few years so am gathering as much useful info as possible. Could you point me towards your blogs books channels ect that talk about how u made the move and any practical advice. Also do u rent out ur yurts as a base while we explore ?
Hi Carolyn, welcome!
Here is a good starting place as links to vids and posts and things https://lulastic.co.uk/yurt-life/inside-yurt-house/
Good luck!
Hi Lucy, just wanted to drop you a message to thank you really. I first came across your blog a few months ago and it’s actually changed my life! I was going through a difficult period not really sure where my life was going, not really feeling comfortable or truly happy but wasn’t sure why…I just felt like something was missing, as if I wasn’t living my true purpose in life. I’m a single mum of 3 children and I always dreamed of living a life of freedom with them, being able to live how we please, take them travelling and not have anything holding us back. I didn’t have a clue how we were going to achieve this as they were at school daily and there seemed to be loads of things holding us back. Then I came across your blog and I was like ‘wow you have the type of life I want!’ You seemed so free and happy and all of your values resonated with mine. I message you and asked how you manage to take the children out of school and you said you unschool them. I had never heard anything like that before and had no idea what it was but I knew I just had to find out more. This was months ago and after spending month after month researching I am now a home educator! My 3 children couldn’t wait to begin our new journey, we’re now in week 4 and nothing in our lives has ever felt so right. Me and my kids are so happy and feel so free, I feel like I’ve put two fingers up at all the people who’s ever held me down and now the sky is the limit…I feel like I’m finally finding my true self and have the confidence to be myself and in turn am a better mother because of this. Sorry for the long message but just had to say thank you because you inspired me to change and I am so glad I stumbled across your blog that day 🙂 I have started writing a blog about our journey too, although it’s still a work in progress! http://homeschool.kellysjourney2freedom.com/2016/01/23/day-13-18-of-home-education/
Ah, your message has pretty much made my year! Thank you for taking the time to tell me! I shall save it and read regularly. So so incredible to hear the freedom you feel now. Love to you all!
Me too
Just saw this- THANKS!
Just found your blog – I look forward to reading more!! Love what I’ve seen so far. 😀
Thanks!
Where do live? I feel as if your in the Northwest. Portland for hippy loving example!
Lucy I am being a complete cucumber – how do I ‘follow’ this blog via wordpress? I just started a blog *squeel* and I want to make sure people can see I follow you and therefore be able to access your blog. Help!
This isn’t a wordpress site THAT’s why…hummm….I’d still love to have a link to it somehow?
Hellooo… Um… not sure!!! Maybe through email subscription thing,?
I’ve popped you here http://fisforfeisty.wordpress.com/f-is-for-female/ xxxx
Hi, do you have a Youtube channel please?
No 🙁 Me filming myself is a disaster! I’ve some vlogs on the Netmums channel though 🙂
I’m just reading this in 2018 and giggled – how far you’ve come! I just came across your blog and YouTube channel a few months ago, and it’s so fun to follow along with your adventures. My husband and two boys and I live on a little farm in Nova Scotia with chickens and bees, and I think we’re kindred spirits. 🙂 Much love from NS!
HAHAHA so many lols!!!
Thanks. I have already found them so thought you might have a Youtube of your own :-).
Great blog! Currently I am not in a relationship but motherhood is definitely in the cards for me in the next couple of years.
Hi, just stumbled across your blog when I was researching if bicarb of soda was the same as baking soda to wash my hair cos they all seem to be american ‘no-poo’ recipes lol
Anyway, just read your about page, I’m 19, not a mother, however its great to know there are others like me! I’m a modern, vegan, animal and earth loving hippy trying to get back to nature as much as possible. Thanks for your blog xxx Peace&Love
Oh dear oh dear. This is the first blog I’ve ever read one paragraph of and signed up to immediately. I think this may be the start of something very lovely. xxx
Just found your blog. Although parenting doesn’t come to what I need, the other stuff is pretty helpful and, anyway, I must say I believe you are bringing up a beautiful family in the best way possible and, though you don’t even know me, I thank you for educating your children the way you are doing. I feel a little bit of more hope for this world (don’t know if it’s said that way, English is not my first language)
Do you know, I come back and read this every so often because I love it so much.
Keep being awesome.
xox tkr
Just found your blog today and love it. You have made me laugh and smile. I’m a boho creative soul who loves drawing and painting, style, and the beauty of the small things in life. I also love twinkly things and spend my life distracted by glitter. So glad to have found you. Em
Great blog. Love the modern day hippie thing mixed with technology. Kinda of where our recipe blog is coming from….Anna 🙂
A friend pushed me to have a look at your website but…
It’s not for me.
I’ve groaned a lot today. I see way too many mums like this where I live and its just horrible; all this stuff has just become a grim cliché to me now; Look! My little baby starchild is such an individual, AS AM I! Um, no, they’re the same as all the others really and actually are now being used as some sort of pawns in a weird little middle-class boho game of one-upmanship that the mums are competing in. There’s a good market in it though.
Sorry. I tried it but I just don’t like it.
HAHAHHAGAGHA how wonderful of you to take the time to let me know!
In keeping with the ‘no poo’ hair, just wondering what face/skincare you use?
Thanks
The answer is in the book! Teeheheee.
I use bicarbonate of soda and coconut oil really, that is all!
hi lucy,
I came across your blog from an age article… glad finally someone is spruiking the no shampoo thing in print worm! I’ve just used water for the last 10 years or so (I’m 34) on my long locks, and my hair couldnt be healthier and I get complements all the time (and then get to shock people with THE TRUTH:).
best wishes for the book!
cheerio Michael
PS: I’m doing a little art project called buried words (I put the website below)… to explore the feelings people fear saying… check it and please share if you like it, would love to get as many contributions as possible!
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Hi Lucy
I love finding people to add to my (virtual) tribe. So happy to have found you 🙂
Good luck with your big new venture.
We live on a 1300 square metre block in a very bushy spot not far from a major town in NSW (Australia). For me, it’s a great ‘hippy ‘compromise. I was a kid in london in the 1960s and just wanted to be 10 years older so I could be a real hippy. I’ve never lost that desire. I was a breast-feeding, cloth-nappy-using, co-sleeping, gentle-parenting, glass-half-full kinda mother for 20 years, but then my kids grew up and I got a little bit lost in the world of the ‘working woman’ (albeit it in a very caring profession). I’m back on track now – bigger and better. I make all my own products, recycle and compost, and eat a close-to paleo diet. I only buy what I really need and am about to embark on Marie Kondo’s ‘Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up’ where I intend to dispose of /organise the contents of my entire house over Easter so I only have things that have meaning and bring me joy. Shortly we will build a new eco-house on the top of our very steep block where I have a great veggie and herb patch planned and lots of fruit trees going in.
It doesn’t get much better than this.
Keep up the good work, Lucy. The world needs more people like you (and less people like ‘Ben’ above).
Cheers
Jane
Hello Lucy, I love your blog, it´s amazing. Thanks a lot!
Kisses from Spain!!!
Muy interesante tu experiencia de vida, sobre todo ahora que cada vez estamos más confusos en lo debe ser la relación del ser humano/natura. Sería muy importante que en tus sites tuvieras una aplicacion para cambio de idioma, especialmente, espaňol.
Just found your blog! Absolutely LOVE it! Looking forward to following along!
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It was so fun meeting you today, Lucy! Your inspirational lifestyle probably just changed my life! We shall see…Safe travels back to NZ with your lovely family!
Hey Lucy I just found your blog, you are so awesome. I love your confidence and everything you write has such meaning and purpose it is beautiful to read. It is great to have found you. so very great. I think I will learn lot from you. I too have two children. I am sensitive to my children’s needs and have become a better parent as the years have gone on. But you have paved the way so to speak for me that I am okay to be me and raise my children as I do. I hear the term you are too soft, a lot. Kind of annoying because I don’t see it that way more that like you say my children are human beings just like me. Thank you I am beyond happy to have found a great woman online like yourself. Tanita x
Ah, wow, thank you! There are thousands and thousands of people living this way – with a kind, respectful family life hooray! I am super grateful to the three or four mamas that opened the door for me, to peer into this brave new world!!
Really enjoyed your blog Lucy!
I was wondering what hairdresser’s you went to in Peckham? I’ve been no poo for 2 months and I badly need a haircut now. I’d like to go somewhere where I won’t be judged! Could you suggest somewhere in London? I would like a scalp massage with water, but without any products.
Thanks!
Miranda
Awesome 🙂 I think it is Cool Cuts – possibly Cutz (classic) in the Nunhead area 🙂
Lovely Lucy! A few weeks ago I found out about your blog & your book ! I love it! I m a no poo girl too, a thaimassage practitioner & midwife – moving to NZ in december with my chilean bf …. When ever there is a chance to meet, I would love to. We are seeking for some more hippies living their lovely lifes as we do
Keep on with your incredible work & family!
Will always be happy to read in your blog!
How great! Yes can in touch, fellow hippy 🙂
Yea! Can´t wait to share some more hippie – stories 🙂
Hi Lucy
I absolutely love your blog. I don’t have time to read much on the internet but I always go for yours first as it’s so funny and so relevant to my parenting experience. I’m also fascinated with your yurt outdoor living journey.
I live in the city but I’m a city country girl (if that makes sense). Brought up in the city (Southampton, UK) by parents who always had us looking around for anything wild and who took us into the parks, beaches and rivers of the city and out of the city, at any opportunity. My mum always has her derriere in the air looking at plants growing anywhere (even in the gutter). She’s nearly seventy now but nothing changes. And my dad used to drag us round the deserted docks (in the eighties) climbing in the sheds and along the railway tracks, and down to the shingly beaches to paddle in the rubbish and build fires as well as out into the New Forest ever weekend and holiday. So we were so lucky – adventure at every opportunity.
I had an idea for your rewilding thing – not relevant to you as you only have cold water anyway I think – but for city dwellers – turn the shower to cold every morning after main shower. I try to do this every day in the winter. I love swimming outdoors but obviously living in London can’t do it all the time (althoug Hampstead etc whenever poss of course). I think it definitely helps my immunity and it gives me that zingy feeling you get from sea and river swims which I don’t get to do as much as I would like. I guess harder for the kids to do in terms of rewilding the children but teens could be encouraged!!!
Anyway. Will keep reading. So tired tonight couldn’t find your email so am posting a comment instead and hoping you get to read it.
Morningirl74
I like your blog! Some very nice pictures and inspiring stories and ideas.
Are you New Zealander? Just curious.
All the best from Rocles (48300)
France
Hi Lucy,
Wishing you a great 2016. I just wanted to share my story with you regarding the rye flour shampoo recipe. Iam based in London and Iam a male . I had a really sensitive scalp and had issues with dandruff for the past many years. I tried every shampoo expensive to organic. All herbal and other alternate options. So many oils just to solve my issue. I went to many dermatologists they gave me medication and gels but all in vain. I came across your blog while googling a remedy that could solve my issue. Its been 2 months and I cant imagine iam so happy and feels like I have a new scalp on my head.. No dandruff , no itching or flaking no dryness its just all so normal. I just wanted to thank you for sharing your blog and its like an inspiration for me . By the way I use rye flour (wholemeal) and it works great for me…
Regards,
Sami
Hi Lucy, so glad I spent the time to save a post of yours, shared by another, on a group thread…& then actually read it! Very glad to hear you are right here in the South Island of good ol’ NZ too. I really loved your post about 10 things worse than an ipad. Looking forward to reading up your old & new posts here, & learning from you as I am a very new blogger, but an ‘old mum’ (youngest child will turn 13 the year I turn 50 – next year gulp!) A homeschooler (sometimes) mostly unschooler, so I think I will enjoy getting to know you through this blog. Keep it coming but remember to breathe sometimes. Merry Christmas!
Hello! I have just discovered your blog and I absolutely love it and everything you stand for! I have just begun not washing my hair (almost two weeks with just water and its not too greasy!) and your blog has been essential. I just had one question, I am vegan and was wondering if you have found any great alternative to egg in your hair? Any info would be appreciated. Thanks 🙂
Hi Lucy
Thank you for sharing your ideas and lifestyle on the internet, it is so exciting for me when I read about other people, especially moms! living out the box in this way! I am a new mom, or child mom as some say…my baby girl will be 10 months old soon. Many (all I think) of your thoughts and ideas resonate with me…even the ones that make me feel uncomfortable at the same time! EC is something I had been thinking about for a while and now after reading your words I have felt the inspiration to go for it. Unschooling is a new idea through a friend, I have already been talking lots to my hubby about homeschooling…he was slowly warming to the idea. Now I have muddled him with the idea of unschooling and he is feeling uncomfortable again. I LOVE it though. I am suuuuuper keen. Yay! Your words have given me more insight into what it is and what it looks like. Self-directed learning is definitely the way of the future. And the one thing I have read of yours that I LOVE but it makes me really uncomfortable at the same time…is your latest stuff on female hairyness! You are so brave!
I would like to ask if Tim has ever struggled with your ideas or resisted them? My hubby is so sweet and loving but he fears offending people and he feels uncomfortable with change. I really stretch him!
Looking forward to hearing from you!
Cassie
Hi,
I just want to say THANK YOU!
I’ve been reading your blog for a few years, taking lots from it and really enjoying your lifestyle. It was thanks to you that 2 and a half years ago I stopped using product on my hair – and I’ve never looked back!
Last year I became pregnant, and knew that I would need your blog for support and information.
I gave birth to a beautiful, amazing, intelligent little girl who we named Matilda, and I set about being the best parent I could possibly be. I knew how I wanted to parent, and what would suit me (and my partner) in life – but the inference from other is borderline obscene. I’ve had unsolicited advice from strangers, family members, friends and so on about everything – breastfeeding (You won’t stick to it…. You need your space from her…. Let someone else look after her), co-sleeping (you could crush her… I heard so an so’s aunties brothers cousin killed their baby!), baby wearing (it doesn’t look safe, can she breathe?!), self soothing (She’ll settle in ten minutes… how will they learn if you’re always going to them!?) , routines (If you don’t have one you\ll make a rod for your own back), bedtimes (If you don’t have them in bed by 7pm they’ll never sleep all night long!), dummies (I think the most common heard phrase so far has been “you want to get her a dummy”. My stock response “I don’t. But I understand it would make you feel better”.)
Anyway, it’s hard. It’s hard when I am a new mum, vulnerable and emotional and you’ve not slept, and your baby cries from 2pm – 11pm every night and you want to be a gentle parent. It’s hard not to listen to the people offering this advice, the advice that I disagree with so sternly.
That’s when I pop by on here and read your blogs. It helps my confidence in bringing up my daughter the way I choose to – by listening to her, following her lead, by staying close to her. THANK YOU for putting in writing how I feel about being a parent. THANK YOU for doing it with grace and beauty.
being a mum isn’t hard, I find it glorious. But it comes with a weight of pressure from other people. Being a confident mother is hard. And you are making it that little bit easier. THANK YOU.
I can’t say it enough – Thank you. I hope you can feel the gratitude!
Laura 🙂
Oh, beautiful Laura! It is so nice to hear from you. I think I might print out your comment to remind me why I do what I do! So much love to you x x
Hi Lucy!
I recently found your blog, and I am absolutely awestruck. Your writing style resonates deeply with me!
I know you’re probably so busy with life, but your eloquence and warm-hearted intellect is so admirable, I was wondering if you have any books you could share with me? I have checked out YOUR books 🙂 but whenever I come across a voice like yours, it makes me wonder what kind of books / other stimuli you may be feeding your brain 🙂 looking to expand my mind & heart to see the world the way you see it. I don’t have any children of my own, and I’m only 21, but I’ve shared your blog / youtube COUNTLESS of times to my friends and family 🙂 I know you must be busy, but if you ever have the time, I’d love to hear from you!
Shanti <3
xx
Hi Lucy,
Thanks so much for your brilliant and inspiriting blog. We too have dreams, as a family, to move off grid 🙂
I was reading one of your blog posts a while ago and you linked to a youtube video of a Reggae musician singing a kid’s song ‘no more monkeys jumping on the bed’ or something like that. I thought it was brilliant but I have searched your website high and low and can’t seem to find it anymore.. Do you know what I’m talking about and if so, please could you send me the blog post I’m on about?
Thank you again!
Charlotte
Hi Lucy,
I certainly believe in things happening for a reason 🙂 . I found you on you tube about a week ago and I am completely hooked , you made me remember what I used to be like. I love everything about you and your endless supply of enthusiasm. I have found you at exactly the right time , when I seem to me on my own journey of self discovery. I too am a home ed mum with all the ups and downs that it comes with and for me at least self doubt. I have dreams of one day being able to have a similar life , for now at least I have my very first allotment and my sanctuary. Thank you so much for being you xx
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Hey Lucy, I just wanted to tell you what a great blog you have, books, videos and everything. And I wanted to thank you for helping me to see a small light in my dark tunnel at this moment in my life. I just happened to come across your YouTube video on making homemade mod podge lol… and something drew me towards all your links, blogs, books, videos, advice and real your personality lol. Its alot like mine used to be. Oh sorry, quick intro lol… My name is Tiffany. I’ve been married for 14yrs and we haven’t managed to kill each other or go nuts so far so clearly doing something right lol. I’m the mother of 2 amazing boys. 19yr old certified personal trainer and 14yr old soon to be graphic designer (Ahhh) and somehow managed to gain 4 other 19yr boys (another personal trainer, 2 certified masonry and one graphic designer and a 19yr soon to be daughter-in-law STNA in Nursing school. With the first grandbaby (Lilly) coming in May. (Whoo) I became a certified crisis intervention consultant for sexual assault victims after being a bad childhood and 3x rape surviver. Unfortunately I am disabled now due to my nerve damage, carpel tunnel syndrome and fibromyalgia being so severe. I have been house bound for 5yrs now and a little stir crazy. I used to love writing my poetry, making any and all crafts, and helping people. Thanks to you I’ve started doing my crafts again, even all new ones (glass, diamond 5D pictures, and wire art/jewelry) trying the channel mum groups/chats, volunteering with elderly, mentally/physically disabled, and animals. I have also been thinking about doing my own channel for my essential oils and home remedies. Any advice you could spare would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for everything. ♡♡♡
Oh sorry I forgot to add the great love story part lol… I meet my husband John thru those old phone dating numbers. We lived in different states. But we talked 2wks straight. Fell asleep on the phone, ate together, and everything. Unfortunately he was on the phone the night a strange man asked for my help then attacked me. I had to call him back from the hospital after everything. The next day he was on a bus to me (12hr ride) and August will be 14yrs that he has been by my side loving and protecting me and our kids. He is now a certified police officer. ♡♡♡
oh Wow! hello!
Hi Lucy,
I found your video by accident whilst looking for information on YouTube about nudism.
Although I can’t say I’m a “true” nudist as such, I love to walk naked in woodland, and really get back to a natural way of life for a few hours.
I’ve recently been looking for someone to share in my love, but have come across many who don’y understand me and have treated me either like a pervert or a complete mad man. Most women today seem to be interested more in work, money, status, modern worldly goods.
I’ve come to believe that there is a special race of women unlike any others. They come from a time and a place far removed from the modern world but are so rare and precious that they appear to be almost extinct.
They’re beautiful and they revel in the opportunity to show their feminine and earthly strength that can range from skinny dipping in a cold river, to naturally nurturing their children.
Your husband was lucky enough to be given one of these enigmatic gifts from heaven.
Hi Lucy,
so great to contact with you today … you are amazing … and especially because authentic … love your videos (the few I have seen so far) … I have gone back to soap now over a year, Dr.Bronners Hemp soap, for body and hair. My reasons were the plastic packing mainly, but also the ingredients of shampoo etc. Love your tips … 😉
We are now house sitting for 1 1/2 years and also love it, maybe not so much if we had kids … hahahaha … do you know Autumn and Jenny? They also have a Jurte … 😉
I would love to stay in contact.
Have a fabulous Sunday.
Big hug,
Sandra … 😉
Hi Lucy, just wanted to say how inspiring (and funny) I’ve found your blog. Discovered it a few months ago and have found a daily read while my daughter naps gives me a boost. It’s taken a while, but I’m finally feeling confident in our choices as parents (co-sleeping, ‘extended’ breastfeeding, and trying to be as responsive and gentle as we can) and the confidence definitely comes from reading blogs such as yours. Being a parent has transformed how I see the world and I’m committed to being at home with our daughter as much as possible. Also just about to buy a campervan and give notice on our flat to embark on a cycling / camping adventure in Europe. Thank you for your words and wisdom!
Hello Lucy,
I bought your “Happy Hair” e-book about 3 years ago and just now, in a period of social reclusion, I finnaly read it.
I have some doubts which I kindly ask you to clarify.
– In the book you mention the baking soda diluted in water but also a baking soda paste. How is the paste made?
– For replacing the shower gel you also mention the baking soda. For this end you use water diluted version or the paste version?
– As a deodorant you use the coconut oil and the baking soda. Is this the paste version? Do you mix the coconut oil with something?