Attachment parenting, Babywearing, Breastfeeding

Shakeaway: breast milk to go

7 September, 2011

Once when Ramona was around 2 months I was walking along our road carrying her in the sling.  Some boys spotted me from their perch up in a block of flats and started hurling down meanness, although all I could really make out was the word “BREASTFEEDING!!!” screamed in a kind of offensive way. (The fact that this is a diss is worth a whole politics-of breastfeeding-rant in itself.) I was utterly mortified! “They must think I am breastfeeding her while I am walking along!” I put my head down and blushed to match my hair, feeling like my little freckly 9 year old self who got bullied in the playground. Then when I got to the end of the road I almost stopped in my tracks; what a bloody good idea. Of course I could breastfeed her in the sling!

The next time I was walking along and Ramona began her hungry headbutting I unhooked my bra and shuffled her around a bit;  she latched on immediately. That day a whole new sphere of stress free parenting opened up.

No more panick stations as I try and find a suitable place to feed her- with her nursing in the sling we can be wandering around the supermarket, a Parisian flea market or an  art gallery and no one is none the wiser. Well. Apart from the growling.

No more missing the train because I had to get a feed in before leaving the house. She just snacks on the walk up.

I feel it has helped build her security as she knows the instant she has a need it will be met, wherever we are – no crying involved. I love that science shows that meeting baby’s need quickly is vital to their development and nurtures things like their empathy cells. (Read more about that in my fave parenting book- it is the shizzle.)

If I ever want her to start a nap quickly (say because I have a meeting that it would be handy for her to sleep through) I just feed her off to sleep in the sling on the way. It often sends her to sleep within moments.

Around the three  month mark Ramona got way too distracted by goings on to breastfeed in public.Then she’d get all hungry and mad. However feeding in the sling helps her feel still involved somehow, avoiding what felt like miniture nursing strikes.

Perhaps best for those early days though was for the occasions when Ramona was incolsolable. They didn’t happen much but sometimes she wouldn’t feed or sleep even though I knew she was hungry and tired. As soon as I learnt to double them up she would settle really quickly. It was as if she needed movement to feed, or perhaps she wanted to feed upright.

I only wish I could have discovered it sooner.

So to those lads on the estate I will be forever indebted, for Ramona’s food on the hoof has made my life as a mother a lot easier. So much easier I would rank it in my top five mothering activities (I know, I’m a total expert after nine whole months.) I should really make those badasses some breast milk ice cream as a grateful treat.

In case your baby wants shakeaways…TIPS:

Feeding in a mei tai, ring sling or wrap is simple. Just tie it so their mouth is about level, although you may have to use your hand to hold either their head or your breast in place as they feed.

Where easy clothes, a low sccop or v-neck so you aren’t trying to yank up your top between your tummies.

Practice at home so you can get the hang of it.

Flick the end of the wrap over the top if you feel you have too much on show.

Beware of strangers coming in for a peek of your baby’s smile only to get that smile, dripping with milk, AND an eyeful of squirting nipple.

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  • Lori W (@thegnomesmom) 8 September, 2011 at 1:41 am

    Ok, she is ADORABLE! Those kids sound like total turds… but breastfeeding while baby wearing is the best thing ever!

    • lulastic 8 September, 2011 at 9:41 am

      TURDS – completely. I wanted to say
      bastards but it’s probably too politically insensitive and my mum would tell me off.
      But I feel that turds cuts it.

  • Cowgirl_Mama 9 September, 2011 at 12:37 am

    I didn’t get a baby carrier until Isaiah was older, but I will definitely be using a sling with the next baby! I’m stubborn, so people commenting on my breastfeeding in public just made me more determined to do it wherever and whenever was needed, but I wish I’d had such a wonderful tool during the time that we were still struggling to figure it out.

    (BTW, thanks for visiting my blog and commenting!)

    • lulastic 9 September, 2011 at 8:06 pm

      And likewise, thanks!
      I know what you mean about that stubborn thing. Although if anyone did say anything to my face I would probably just be gobsmacked!!

  • melwiggins 9 September, 2011 at 9:58 am

    Thanks for the tips Lu! I haven’t quite got the hang of the sling feeding yet, but I think it’s mainly down to wardrobe choices.

    • lulastic 9 September, 2011 at 8:09 pm

      Oh yes. It took me until Ramona was 6 months to bite the bullet and change my preferred tops to be more accessible ones. So much easier if you can just wangle a mammary gland over the top.

  • Summersday 10 September, 2011 at 9:40 pm

    Lovely! Also, feeding in a ring sling can be done with the baby lying across you, which gives even more privacy. My boy fed like that whilst we wandered around town til he was about 13 months old at which point I switched to using an Ergo carrier (as he was getting heavy for the ring sling ) in which he could still feed whilst I walked. I also wish I had known how easy it is to sling it and feed much earlier on! Breastfeeding is so amazing that I am really really sad that now at 25 months he asks for it less and less 🙁 although it does mean I am finally getting a bit more sleep! Loving your blog and looking forward to more posts on your adventures with miss magic-cheeks 🙂

  • Summersday 10 September, 2011 at 9:40 pm

    Interestingly the number one reason for extremely low breast feeding rates in low income areas is the taboo, shame, embarrassment of using breasts for feeding a baby instead of for their perceived real purpose which is sex ( In France however this breasts=sex attitude apparently pervades all of society across all income levels.

  • Summersday 10 September, 2011 at 9:43 pm

    Oh and one other thing-have you read ‘The Politics of Breastfeeding’? That is an incredibly eye-opening book which will just make you even more passionate about the values of breastfeeding! It also really highlights how women’s ‘choices’ around breastfeeding really are very much influenced in ways they just don’t realise (e.g. by the formula lobby, the sexualisation of society, the commodification of so much of human life/interactions).

    • lulastic 11 September, 2011 at 3:04 pm

      Thank you! I am loving your comments! Yes, politics of bf is on my to read list, although a bit nervous of getting more fodder for my ranting ha.

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